I'm Strong But I Still Need Help
Your strong friends also breakdown.
I often talk about how women need to support strong friends, particularly strong women of color. I also whine and, yes, complain about the lack of support that I receive as a strong friend. Yet my friends rarely understand what I mean when I say, “I wish I had support.”
This is usually what I get when I broach the subject.
“Sujeiry, you’re so resilient.” I nod in acknowledgement. I have a knack for bouncing back although it’s rarely as easy as a ball bounces back when it hits concrete. When I hit rock bottom emotionally, I scrape myself up off the floor, yes, but with a lot bruises and scars.
“Girl, I admire you so much. You got this!” Another nod from me and a “thank you." I'm grateful for the support and kind words that come from loved ones and the strangers that slide into my DM on Instagram. And I do got “this,” including a God-given talent for writing and storyteller. Plus, a desire to publish many books with a publishing house and to run a magazine on all things love. I did so in 2018 albeit without proper planning, strategy, and support.
Back to support, which is at the crux of this story. When I ask for it the response is often the same: “But I do support you, we all do.” I nod again because she/they are right. Some support the work that I produce through a purchase. Others support my work by cheering me on (some of my friends don't like to read and I'm a writer, so there's that.) They all tell me they are proud of me. They share my work, if they are technically savvy enough. Again, I am very grateful. However, I am seeking something different in terms of “support.”
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