Another Reinvention - NOT an Identity Crisis
Don't call it a comeback.
Hallelujah! I finally feel like myself again. If you’ve been reading my posts since 2019 when I found myself single at 40, you are well aware of my identity crisis and the impact it had on my life. I was a hot mess, y’all. And who wouldn’t be, trapped on Long Island with no friends or family, a 2-year-old son, no partner, and a radio and writing career in shambles?
Do you know what happens when you feel like life is spiraling outside of your control (although I’ve learned we are always in control)? You make decisions based on lack, desperation, neediness, loneliness, and fear. You’re not yourself. You become a shell of the person you were, walking through life in a fog and forgetting who you are and what you truly desire.
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That is the woman I was when I chose to shut down Love Sujeiry, my blog of over 10 years. I told myself that my career as a writer and on-air talent was over and I needed to “get serious,” stop fucking around, get a traditional job, and be like everyone else. I resigned myself to dating men that I wasn’t attracted to and had no chemistry with because they treated me well. I just wanted a healthy and successful long-term relationship. I convinced myself that the only way to attain that was to settle.
I repeat: I was a hot mess, y’all. I had all of these negative assumptions about what it took to be a successful creative entrepreneur and what I had to give up to be loved.
I share this with you today because I want you to check your mindset. Ask yourself: what assumptions do I have that keep me stuck in lack? That has led to my resigning myself to living an unfulfilled life?
I am also announcing my new blog, The Relationship Den! Consider it a Love Sujeiry reboot. Love Sujeiry on steroids. Love Sujeiry part deux.
I know what I want. I know who I am: a co-creator with God living a life of abundance, success, and so much love. And I’ll know you’ll love it.
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Read My Latinx Romance Novels
I have a slew of Latinx romance novels available for your pleasure. Always funny and romantic - and hawt. Purchase on paperback, Kindle, or read for free on Amazon.
Heights of Love: Candi, a funny and spicy Latinx romance novel, is a friends-to-lovers romance about a Dominicana from Washington Heights that has plenty of sexual escapades. She has the hots for Jay, her co-worker at an NYC real estate firm, and is ready to pursue him but comes face to face with an unknown adversary. Candi is suddenly confronted by Joel, her best friend, Yo's, twin brother, and his longing for her. Will she ignore Joel because of Yoanna or will she succumb to the greatest love she has ever known?
Available: Paperback | Kindle | Amazon (first 3 chapters are free)
Heights of Love: Yoanna, is a spicy, will-they-won’t-they episodic read. After an unexpected breakup, type A and laser-focused Dr. Yoanna De Santos swears off men to focus on her booming gynecological practice. That's until her feelings get the best of her! At her New Year's Eve party, not only does she wind up banging one of the servers, Ben, on the hood of her car, but he also gives her the best orgasm of her life. Will Yo let Ben turn up the heat over and over again or will her elitism and perfectionism ruin the best sex she's ever had and her happily ever after? Read the first 3 chapters for free on Amazon.
Cocktails and Strategy is a steamy, episodic erotic read. Nothing will stop Clara from exacting her revenge on Terrance. He's on his back and pleading to be with her, and that's exactly where she wants him. Will Clara get her way and make him pay or will Terrance crack her armor and finally get to penetrate her and her heart? Read the first 3 chapters for free on Amazon.