Dating As a Single Mom Is Hard, According to Drew Barrymore (and Me!)
Dating As a Single Mom Is Hard, According to Drew Barrymore (and Me!)
Real talk: how do we date with kids?
Dating As a Single Mom Is Hard, According to Drew Barrymore (and Me!)
Dating as a single mom is haaaard. Just take it from Drew Barrymore and, well, me! Despite Drew having all the money in the world to carve out free time to date, she's struggling.
She spoke about why she is struggling on the CBS Morning Show. It isn't about finding the time, it's about our mindset. Drew shared that dating as a single mom is hard because, well, she's dating with kids.
This resonated with me. Although it's obvious that a single mom that dates has kids, the idea of sharing your life with anyone outside of your kids feels odd.
Take my situation for example. I've been a single mom since December 2018. That's 3 years since publishing this blog, but who's counting! (I sure am.) My son's father and I have joint custody. 50/50 spit in the middle. This obviously provides me with ample time to write on this here blog and to podcast. And yes, I have a few days a week where my schedule is wide open. I can date! I can meet men! I can socialize!
Dating As A Single Mom Is Hard Because...
I do all of these things. But, when a relationship feels like it's moving past the Friend Zone (where all the men I am dating currently reside), I panic. How will Evan react when I introduce them? When should I introduce him to a guy I am dating? Maybe I just need to wait until I'm walking down the aisle. They'll meet then!
Me: Future Husband, meet the Ring Bearer. Ring Bearer, this is my Future Husband.
Blank stares.
Me: Oh, yea, he's my son. And he's going to be your new step daddy!
Nope, that won't work!
Taking Dating Easy
What I've decided regarding dating as as single mom in mid-life is to take it easy. I am dating as a feminine and following my intuition. I am not rushing a thing. And I am most certainly not introducing the first guy that gives me butterflies to my kid.
I've given this much thought, as you can see. Here are some loose ground rules that I've come up regarding introducing my kid to my man:
We must be in a committed relationship.
The relationship must be past the 1 year mark. (Cause you know those 6 month relationships can easily become flings.)
We will not live together for a loooooooong time.
Evan will have to like him. Cause I will not choose my man over my kid.
Maybe this will change when I fall in luuuurve. For now, I am in a great place as a single mom. I am casually dating, podcasting, writing, and filling my life with the people and hobbies that I love. That, my single mom friends, makes dating so much easier and that much sweeter. Follow suit and casually date on!
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And just like that (pun intended) I relaunched my podcast yesterday. Since I listened to the calling that God has placed in my heart, He blessed me with a podcast feature on iHeart Radio. My little podcast that could is noted as one of 5 podcasts that celebrate the power of love. Whooopee! Check out my feature here.
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